Aaaannnddd.. Im back

Published June 21, 2012 by zeekajie

I know i know, I’ve neglected my non-existent group of readers, but im back!!!.

I have been busy, we adopted a rottweiler named Broc. He is 12 months old and the sweetest baby ever(pictures to follow soon)! So he has kept us busy as well as the little gremlin who beats up dolls.

The gremlins first birthday is coming up and my mother and sister are planning a party, I was not involved in all this craziness untill said sister roped my in, and now I have to make party packs! Dont get me wrong i love parties, I just feel the gremlin is too young to understand and she wont remember it. But they don’t care, its tradition and their sticking to it!

  • Theme: Winnie the pooh (couldn’t do princess because she doesn’t really like dolls, she abuses them)
  • Amount of kids: 20 (God Help me)
  • Bank balance: The same (thank God their paying for everything) Dont judge, party’s are expensive, and I’d rather spend the money on books.
  • Activities: Jumping castle (Just great)
  • Venue: Granny’s place (so my house remains in one piece)
  • Gift: I have no idea what to get this child!

I know that the gremlin will enjoy herself, she loves being the centre of attention, doesn’t get fussy around a lot of people, she’s little party animal my gremlin (like her mommy) feed her and she’s the life of the party! And a huge bouncy castle is gremlin heaven!

Theres lots to do to make this day a special one for my little girl.

Now what do I get this little girl for her birthday

despicable me

despicable me


The nightshift (Well not really, just bragging about my baby lol)

Published April 27, 2012 by zeekajie

So for the past two weeks I have worked night shift. Which sucks because:

  1. No fighting with Imaan to go to sleep
  2. No cuddles with her and hubby before bed
  3. No watching series with hubby, with the tv almost on mute, because crazy might wake up
  4. No Sleep!!!!!! And I need sleep.

This is also awesome because:

  1. No fighting with Imaan to go to sleep
  2. I get more days off, so I spend more time with baby and hubby
  3. I get to sleep ALL day while my friends slave away
  4. I get a work out running after Imaan, because she’s crazy!

Notice the pattern? It’s all about Imaan.

So for the past two weeks its been two nights at work, two days home. And on one of my work days/nights while Imaan is at my moms place, she decides to take her first steps!!!!! Now this kid is 8 months old has one and a half teeth (with a tooth-brush and tooth paste coz I have OCD lol. And is a bit advanced for her age (proud mommy) and extremely hyper active (tired mommy), one happy camper and a show off.

When was able to sit on her own (3 months old) she would wriggle out of your arms so you could set her down and show you she can sit alone. Then she started crawling (5 months) (well more like sliding) and she would do it all the time because she got more attention. Then she started ‘talking’ (from about 5-6 months), naturally the first word was dadda (jealous mommy) then she went straight to ‘daddy’ (very jealous mommy), then kaka and when she wants something mama, she also shouts at people and wont go to strangers. Good girl. Now round about the time the talking started, getting up against things (and falling on her bum) started happening (a lot). Then at 7 months old (almost) we were visiting my friend Kelly and the two of us were chatting, not really paying attention to the gremlin, and the little attention seeker does NOT like being ignored, she crawls up to me, lifts herself up and stands. AWESOME. She also does that all the time to get our attention and make us jump around and shout like crazy people lol. Shes a smart little girl. BUT…she doesnt want to walk for mommy :-(. She sings with me, stands for me, fights with me and loves me to bits but she wont walk for me.

I will now go ahead and be sad and sleep deprived

Published April 27, 2012 by zeekajie

This is applicable to ALL children, but i think its 10000000x worse when its being directed at a child, especially one with special needs. Its sad and disgusting.
Any teacher who ever speaks like that to one of my girls, will FEEL the wrath of Zee! i will whip some serious ass!
Its unbelievable that this comes from a teacher!!!

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It would be pretty upsetting, I imagine.

What if you found out your child was being called a “bastard” and told to “shut his mouth”?

Me?  I’d feel a burning rage hotter than a thousand suns.

But wait.  It’s not another child saying those things to your kid.

It’s his teacher.  And his teacher’s aide.

Feel sick yet?

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Cape town crime rate

Published April 16, 2012 by zeekajie

One thing that pisses me off endlessly and saddens me to the point of tears is the alarming rate of toddler and baby murders and rapes going on and the fact that jack shit is being done about it, pardon my french but what the fuck are the police doing?

This morning on my way to work, the posters read: ‘toddler knifed to death’; ‘two kids dead, one injured’; ‘baby found dead under uncles bed’ I mean what the fuck people?!!!! These are small, innocent defenseless CHILDREN!!! The fucking gangsters and drug dealers don’t get shot, nooooo they walk around happy and free and not bothered by anything or anyone. they deserve a bullet in the fucking face or to be violated and raped, but does it happen to them? does it happen to rapist and child pornographers and murderers? NO. It happens to poor little children!!!! FFS!!!!! IT UPSETS ME SO MUCH!!!!! Last week a mother and child were found murdered in a bush, the police still don’t have a fucking clue as to who did it and the family of the victims had to PAY for DNA testing to confirm that it was the girl because her body was so badly mutilated. So whats the police doing, charging her for something that should be done free of charge! The presidents new wife to be is gonna need a sparkler, so lets just get the money out of the desperate people looking for justice! ‘we’ll try to find the person who raped and killed your daughter and her kid, but first you need to cough up R1500 bucks to pay for it. No wonder this world is on the fast track straight to hell!

And when they do find the killer he either gets off scot-free, gets special treatment (gets to go home for fucking christmas) ‘you killed ten kids who wont see another christmas but your special so here’s a holiday and some underserved time with your family, all because you smiled so nicely in court when they talked about your reckless driving that killed those angels!’, or the get a minimal sentence. but when the childs family takes the law into their own hands, they get life sentences! he raped and murdered your four-year old, get over it. he deserves to be treated like a law-abiding citizen!’ fucking assholes!!!!

I swear, if God forbid anything should happen to any of my angels, its gonna take a fucking army to TRY (I say try coz it’s not gonna work) and keep me away from that worthless piece of shit. Hell hath no fury will be a understatment. The movie ‘I spit on your grave’ will be a walk in the park for that fucker. I will take the law into my own hands, I will fuck his shit up and I will take on the legal/justice system and get off scott free, I will be doing it for any mother who ever had her baby hurt or had to suffer the loss of their little angel cos some waste of space excuse for a human got trigger happy or dick happy and hurt them. its only right!

Our religion teaches to obey the law of the land, but when the law flips me the middle finger I will flip two right back at them!


Sorry about the rant, I just feel very strongly about shit like this any mother would (except for those fuckers who kill and rape their own children)

sister sister

Published March 19, 2012 by zeekajie

Asalaamu alaykom, good day, helooooo people.


So this weekend was fun, had the banana over and we only get her every second weekend so the gremlin doesn’t see a lot of her big sister. As a result they don’t bond and the gremlin doesn’t know her or understand that the banana is family.

But on saturday we  pick up banana and as soon as the (very moody and in a bad mood at the time) gremlin spots her she flashes one massive smile (much to my surprise! this kid doesn’t smile at anyone easily, especially if she’s in a bad mood) and nearly jumps from my arms to kiss her sister lol. she got so excited!!!! I think its coz she was sick of me and her dad and was desperate for company lol. Any how all the way home, the gremlin doesn’t take her eyes off her sister and the huge silly smile is glued to her face, then the gremlin in her takes over and she hits her sister *sigh* the banana laughs it off, but I get very upset, I don’t want her fighting with her sister, we don’t want the banana to feel like she doesn’t belong or like we favour the little rat over her. by the way since we told the banana she was gonna be a big sister (and she made it clear that it better be a girl) she has been one very happy and excited little girl. telling everyone who would listen that she’s going to have a sister 🙂 sooo cute!

Anyway where were we? oh yes, the gremlin fighting. this little 7 month old has a nasty temper and she is extremely stubborn! its crazy! She clearly understands no, she just choses to ignore me! *sigh*. We want the banana to feel like she is still our baby so we make a fuss over her when she’s there so that she doesn’t feel threatened by the new addition, and surprisingly this has never happened. she loves it when Imaan gets attention, because its her baby sister!!! TOO CUTE! anyhow after I tell the gremlin to stop fighting with her sister she looks at me and smiles at her sister and goes on playing. this went on all day saturday and sunday.


Then on sunday something amazing happened. Imaan passed out from exhaustion!!!! I layed her down, changed her nappy and she was out. ‘This is amazing why?’ you may ask? because this child refuses to sleep during the day!!! since one month old she flat-out refuses!! you have to FIGHT with her to get her to take a nap. And now I have a secret weapon, RANA! Good Lord, who would have known a toddler could be so useful?? I discovered it and will continue to use it every other weekend, now i just need something for every other day when the banana isn’t there.

 they played together from 7am to 2pm and the gremlin conked out. I was so proud of Rana. It made rana destroying the house worth it! (I changed my mind about that as soon as we got back from dropping her off and we had to clean the mess).

The gremlin behaved like a dream while her sister was there, even allowed her daddy to play along and she was nice to him. then when her sister was gone, it was back to normal, me juggling her on one arm and the dishes, washing and whatever else on the other, with her shouting at me to kiss her *sigh* she drives me nuts but she is just oh so cute!!!

This weekend, I took a back seat and watched how the princess interacted with the girls and I fell in love all over again. He is such a push over LOL they get their way all the time. He just cannot say no. he loves those girls soooo much. I wouldn’t trade my naughty little angels and their push over daddy for the world!

This is how they sleep? Imagine how I feel when i get up in the morning, my aching bones!!!


Published March 16, 2012 by zeekajie

My little gremlin made her way into this world two weeks late via c-section. And after 2 days of induced labour, 9 centimetres dilated and princess (husband) receiving death threats and beatings, she finally made her appearance (and made us both swear never to have kids again) at 02.43 on the 7th of August 2011 covered in goop and pooping!  Yes pooping, twice (once on the paed’s hand lol)!! With some fluid on her lungs to a high on morphine mother with very bad hair!!! (my hair still hasn’t recovered)

The single most amazingly beautiful little person I have ever met! She looks just like me, lots of hair and FAT(her not me, not anymore) soooooo cute!!! 10 little fingers, ten little toes. PERFECT! Total sweetheart! And I was so sad because I couldn’t hold her 😦 and jealous of princess because he could. She was then whisked off to the nursery on oxygen with daddy in tow to spend some more time with our new addition while I slept. I got her back later that morning and we’ve been inseparable ever since (well minus the too many hours I spend at work).


She was cute, and cuddly and smelt nice (well till she started with the nasty thing called spit up) and a total pleasure. Then the colic started (it only lasted till she was a month old thank goodness) and she wouldn’t let her daddy touch her without screaming the roof off . I loved it. lol all she wanted was me :-). Till i went back to work… she wouldn’t let me breastfeed, prefered her bottle, and her daddy 😦 I cried, moaned, felt sad and then thought of ways to win her back. I regret it 😦 I should just have learnt to share!!! Selfish selfish baby hogging me!!!


Now at 7 months and one week old she is a little terrorist! Eats everything in sight, loves potato and is teething and trying to walk because apparently crawling hurts her knees. she can even stand on her own, as in not holding onto anything *proud mommy* but only when she feels like it 😦 (so using it as a party trick is out). she is healthy and happy and only wants her mommy ALL THE TIME. which I love but it’s also tiring and frustrating when she’s screaming at me when im trying to cook or do anything that doesn’t involve me holding her. *sigh* she loves her dad to but he can only get kisses, his not allowed to take her from me, not without a fight anyway. So my whole life goes on hold till madam decides to go sleep. Thankfully once she’s out, she’s out for the night, only to wake at 6.30 – 6.45 am and pooping.

She also says dadda and shouts at you if you pay attention to other people and not her. and she screams if I go near another child, she throws a full on tantrum and tries to hit the child!!! *totally horrible* I wonder where she gets her temper from….lol. She loves cartoons (cool cats in particular) and makes her dad ask people for food. wonder how she does it? here’s how:

  • Spots person with food
  • Locates daddy
  • Shouts at daddy
  • Looks at person with food again
  • Licks her lips while looking at person with food
  • Repeats till daddy gets her whatever that person is eating

Oh my heart. she is the funniest, craziest most adorable little thing in the world and i love her!!! And this is her:


My Little Gremlin

One of her many funny faces





Hello world!

Published March 16, 2012 by zeekajie

So my blog has finally come to life. I’ve been contemplating whether i should start this blog or not and here I am. So let’s get this party started!

 My name is Zaakiyah, im from Cape Town South Africa, I’m married to a wonderful man who in this blog will be refered to as ‘princess’

The princess husband

My husband, the princess

he is the light of my life and also the single most annoying person to watch a series with!!Im also a mother to my little gremlin and my step daughter Banana. now these two are my pride and joy, the gremlin is 7 months old and banana is 4 years old. Like i mentioned i am a muslim woman and i hope to, with the help of this blog, destroy (not in a suicide bomber kind of way) all misconceptions you all might have about ‘us’ so feel free to ask questions 🙂 I’m generally a straight forward honest person, so expect ALOT of brutal honesty, and i have an opinion about EVERYTHING lol. And don’t worry, i wont judge you if you don’t agree with me, i will just not be very nice to you again *jokes* im open-minded yet very religious, but don’t worry, i wont bore you with the normal religious juju but i also wont post anything inappropriate. And if what i say does offend you then tough! haha. *kidding* On a serious note, i hope this will be one loooong ass happy yet cynical relationship between me and whoever accidentally stumbles upon my ramblings. Enjoy your days guys and dolls


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